Everything After - A 9.11 Youth Circle - what would you say to the terrorists?

I have mixed feelings. Although I don't agree with what the terrorist responsible for the 9/11 attacks did or their beliefs, I can empathize about where their anger comes from. The U.S. shits on many nations in the name of profit and does not have any good Muslim relations to speak of.
On the other hand, every time I think of what 9/11 did to my city (NYC)I get really angry. Generally I believe forgivness is the best way to go, but I don't know if I could forgive Al Queda. That doesn't mean I think we should bomb Afghanistan though. I know in my brain that the best way to work this out is for the US to have a more considerate stance towards Muslim nations and for people on both sides to move on. But i don't know if i feel that way inside. I don't think I have ever felt so angry about a single action in my life. I don't know what I would say to the terrorists, because I feel like my anger at all the after effects of 9/11. I know it would be angry though.

I would ask them to answer the simple question of, "Why?" They say they do it in the name of God, but as I said before, is that really a sound argument for what they did? When did it come down to people killing people to settle disputes? What is it about war that people are so willing to lay down their lives for? I understand that when there's war between nations, that people go to fight to protect one's country. However, when you're on the battlefield, do you have any issues with any of the other people on the opposing side, other than the fact that you do not share the same beliefs? Why must it always come down to death?
As I said before, I do not believe I have a right to have a say in forgiveness for the terrorists. Yes, they attacked my country, but they did not affect me directly: I did not have family members there, I did not have a relative who was in the fire dept. fight down there. Nonetheless, seeing the videos from the terrorists is very hurtful when they talk about America and saying how all Americans are bad, wrong, and distrustful through their propaganda. There is, however, nothing we can do about that. You can't change the frame of mind (to an extent) of people once they are in it. For example, many white Americans of the WWII and 1960s era who still may have prejudices toward African Americans today; you cannot change their habits in that sense. You can, though, change the attitude over the generations. Certain learned behaviors, though are not specifically negative, may come out of these generations; for example, although I am not prejudice towards African Americans, I would not seek an interracial relationship.
I would like to know how the terrorists perceive the value of life. As a people of God, I would infer that they would observe some value of human life. But if they believe in sacrificing their lives and the lives of others in the name of God, I don't know. As I was saying before I went on a tangent, I do not feel I have a right to have a say in forgiving them. But if I did, if I had lost family down there or something to that degree, I think, though hard it would be, I'd be able to forgive. For holding a grudge will do nothing but breed more hatred. Just like a bully provoking hatred on another, if the target does not permit him/herself to "return" the hatred, who do you think is the better person?

To MagDee023's comment: the US kills people to settle disputes. More innocent Afghani's (people who are not involved in terrorist groups) have been killed because of the US in the past 6 months than people killed 9/11. Both the US and Al Queda claim to do their violence for a greater cause (freedom's fight or to end an oppressive US regime, respectivly). It's all a matter of whose perspective you agree with. We (Americans/'devoloed nations') are trained to agree that our freedoms and liberties are worth dying for by the media and high-profile politicans. People in other parts of the world are trained to agree that ending one of the most oppressive worldwide instituions/governments (US) is important and worth dying for.
I don't agree with the violence on either side. But it seems to me Bush and Bin Laden place the same value on life.